23 things I learned before turning 23!

I’ve finally hit what people call the “Jordan Year.” Can't believe I'm Twenty-three I feel like I just turned 21 and my 20s honestly just flew by! It’s so weird to think about getting "older". Sometimes I still feel like I’m 15. Like what happened to the girl who was having a Quinceanera.

Definitely blessed to still have another birthday. Over the years of getting older, I have learned somethings.

Here's what I've learned!!

1. FRIENDS COME + GO Some friends are forever and some friends are not – that’s just a fact of life. If you have some good ones' Hold on to the ones that want to stay and let go of the ones that don’t. Life is too short to try to keep someone in your life.

2. DON’T GROW UP TOO FAST I feel like people are in such a hurry to grow up: especially right after graduating, and they are ready to start working, get married, and even have kids. For me, I learned to take it easy because you’re really going to miss the simplicity of things. 3. NO ONE PERSON IS BETTER THAN ANOTHER. I feel like this is hard for some young adults to understand is when people act like they are better than other people. Just because you have a nicer car or more money than someone doesn’t mean you are better than them. 4. Be cautious in your spending. Believe your grandmother when she tells you don’t spend it all in one place. Save for the good stuff and then take care of it. Don’t buy cheap things and then be upset when they break. Be smart with your money and be intentional in your savings. Make a budget and actually stick to it. You may just need that cushion on a rainy day. 5.LIVE YOUR DREAMS Is your dream to be a small business owner? Have a side hustle? Travel the world? Make it happen. You will be a much happier person if you try to live out your dreams. My mom has always told us kids " do it while you're still young". 6.GIVE BACK Odds are, you’ve lived a pretty good life thus far. Always aim to give back to those that need it.It will make this world a much better place. 7.SET “ME TIME” ASIDE Hanging out with people is always wonderful, but everyone needs time to be with themselves. Have some time by yourself will help you to reflect, reset, and get ready to roll on forward. 8. ALWAYS BE RESPECTFUL OF OTHERS’ OPINIONS

It doesn’t matter what someone’s opinion is. They might love the President of the United States and someone might hate him. Point is, it doesn’t matter what you think or what they think – what matters is that you always be respectful. You think the way you do for a reason, and so do they. 9.T’S OKAY TO SAY NO This one I'm still struggling with and have a hard time with sometimes... But if you Don’t really feel like going bar-hopping with friends? Just say no. Don’t come up with a “sorry, I have family in town” lie and go about your business. Just say no. People appreciate honesty, and it’s 100% okay to not want to do something. It will make it better because you are being honest instead of being a liar. 10.DON’T LIE + DON’T SUGAR COAT THINGS I don't know if this is just me but I don't like it whenever people sugar coats a conversation with me... If you’re not into something and want to get out of it – tell the person just that. Don’t lie, don’t make something up. It’s not worth it. Just be honest … it’ll get you a lot further in life. 11. NEVER TAKE SPENDING FAMILY TIME FOR GRANTED.

family is the most important to keep an open time for. Life is too short and I always enjoy seeing my family even though they can get on my nerves sometimes. But at the end of the day, they are all you have and will always be you're supporting you. Always have you're back. No matter what! 12.BODY confidence Okay so let’s be honest, your body is probably not what it was in high school. If you’re 23 and this hasn’t happened to you then congrats, go eat more donuts for the rest of us. But the point is NO ONE HAS PERFECT body God made us not to be the same we're all different and that's okay because he loves for us. 13. GOING TO BED EARLY

Going to bed at 9 o’clock doesn’t make you an old lady. that just means you're responsible and  It’s so worth it since you'll get a full 8 hours of sleep. Then you're friends who have to rely on Starbucks coffee.  Haha 14.LOVE YOUR SELF

You have to learn to love yourself at some point. You can’t rely on others to feed you the love that you should be feeding yourself. And it’s okay to spend time alone. THIS GOES WITH #12 TOO. 15. SINGLE LIFE IS THE BEST LIFE. It’s okay to be single. It’s okay to be in a relationship. Girl or boy take you're time  Just because everyone else is doing it doesn’t mean it’s the right thing for you right now. And honestly, In fact, the older I'm it just means to me I know myself worth that I'm okay I don't need anyone else but my dog and family. 16. When one door closes, another one opens

Always remember that God has a plan for you and a job is just a job you can always find a new one. 17. YOU'RE FEELINGS ARE VALID

never let someone think you're emotions are valid. Get the hard stuff out and open up. Because in the end you're human and you have feelings. That's how God made us be. 18. You don’t have to be everything, but you do need to be self-aware.

Being self-aware is the best thing you can possibly be. Know who you are, know your flaws, know the ins and outs of yourself so deeply that no one can touch you. Be able to recognize behaviors and your reactions and understand why you’re acting the way you’re acting. Be self-aware. When you’re able to put everything out onto the table, no one can take anything away from you . 19. It’s not necessarily going to get better, but it will get easier.

Things don’t always get better. Truthfully, sometimes they’ll get worse. But what does change is your ability to deal. It doesn’t always get better, but you do 20. DO NOT EXPECT ANYTHING FROM ANYONE

Sometimes this is hard to learn or even remember but Never, I repeat never, rely on, or expect anything from anyone else. Often times, you’ll come out disappointed.  It will save you a lot of worries, and a lot of disappointment . 21. IT’S OKAY TO HAVE A “CHEAT DAY”

And it’s okay to have a cheat week. Do what you want, eat what you want – you get it. Do what makes your heart happy in that moment, and don’t you ever make yourself feel guilty. 22. DON’T TAKE YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY

Never ever take yourself too seriously. This is where you lose yourself and who you are. Dance like a crazy person. Sing at the top of your lungs. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. Have fun. Be you! 23. KEEP LIFE BEAUTIFUL

Always remember that life can be great and even in the rough times. Your life makes it how you want. Don't forget that "you can be down for a moment you just can't live there."